So after dating and hooking up with all these guys through out high school, I was still a virgin. I remember when I was thirteen, I made a pact with myself to wait until I was eighteen to have sex. Education has always been highly important to me, and I didn’t want my experience to be interrupted with getting pregnant, especially because I wasn’t 100% sure if I wanted kids or not. So in October of 2007, I met Boyfriend #1. My eyes spotted him before my head had a chance to catch up on the details. I was very attracted to him with his brown hair, blue eyes, and facial structure, not to mention he was a year older and quite a bit taller. I asked my friend at the house party we were at when this all happened, to pass along my phone number to him. He called me later that night after I left, and I made a point of being brief with him over the phone to remain “mysterious.”
After dating for two weeks and calling up the mutual friend that passed my phone number along and saying, “I’m still not sure how I feel about this guy. Do I like him? Do I?” I decided to take the plunge and agree to be his girlfriend. We were together just over a month when we decided to have sex. He had only had sex once before, and according to him, it had been in a dark, drunken stupor. To my surprise, none of common misconceptions had played a roll in losing my virginity…there was no blood, and it didn’t hurt that bad, and it’s not like his dick was small or anything.
After that, we were pretty inseparable, and I was spending a lot of time with his family as he was with mine. His parents were divorced and mine had just separated a few months before we got together, so he helped me through the process. I graduated high school early in December and was then able to just work and save up money, so we were spending quite a few nights together, as well.
We dated until early March of the following year, so Boyfriend #1 and I were only together for six months. We broke up six months before I was set to leave for college. After breaking up, to my astonishment, I had learned that while we were dating, he had cheated on me with five other girls. I spent the next two weeks on my friends’ couches, crying my eyes out every day for at least two hours at a time. It was a bad first boyfriend experience, to say the least.
After I had recreated the Hoover Dam with my tears, I decided the only way I was going to get over him was to hook up with someone else. That’s where Meatball came in. He was two years younger than me, a drummer for my friend’s band, and very cute and mature for his age. He had only had sex once prior to me as well, so I decided I would take the reigns and teach him a thing or two I learned from my teenage hormonal sex rage I had had for the last six months.
It was a perfect arrangement: I was moving soon, and he was very popular amongst his female peers. I loved picking him up from his shows, with all the sixteen year old girls whining about him going home with me instead of them. It was empowering to not only be the one in charge in the bedroom, but to also make all those little girls jealous. We had an agreement, of being fuck buddies unless he decided to develop feelings for another girl closer to his age. It worked out perfectly.
Coming closer to my move date, I dated two other guys (for no reason, really…what was the point)? I had been dating this guy who was such a gentleman, my age, and had great charisma. One night, however, he spent the night and I had a sex dream about Meatball and was apparently moaning his name in my sleep. That kind of ruined it for him. Then, I dated another guy who asked me upfront, “Are you still sleeping with Meatball?” I guess our controversial age gap sex scandal had made quite the impact on both of our peer groups. We tried having sex once, and he couldn’t keep it up. That was that.
My learning experience from this was: if you need to get over someone or want to make your men try harder (or at least weed out the ones that can’t keep it up), hook up with a guy after a break up and hook up with him until you find someone else to date? Maybe? Well, this led to problems later…